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Re: KärleksMagi

Tobias Vemmenby — Sat, 29 Jun 2019 05:33:21 -0000

Jodå jag har djupdykt lite extra. En del var ju sånt jag redan gör med LoA, men lite nytt och framför allt har jag nu dubbla tandborstar och lite så. 😊 Och håller andra sängen fri från böcker…

Och tack det samma! 😃

Re: KärleksMagi

Tobias Vemmenby — Tue, 25 Jun 2019 15:37:06 -0000

Jag vill ha någon som är öppen och kommunicerar med mig, som är lekfull, har humor, är kvinnlig och feminin, och bekväm med sig själv. Någon som vill dela erfarenheten att få barn för första gången. Hon är yngre än mig och delar i grova drag mina världsbilds- och livsstilsriktningar, tror på magi, och varken rädd för att försvaras av mig eller att försvara mig när jag behöver det. Hon vågar vara sårbar med mig, och jag med henne. Hon är heller inte rädd för varken fysisk eller psykisk närhet, och både bekväm och öppen i sin sexualitet.

Re: Free Sample Course From The University of Love & Sexuality / Discussion

Tobias Vemmenby — Fri, 25 May 2018 07:32:51 -0000

1 - Partly being afraid. I've come far, but still haven't healed certain issues stemming from family and a failed marriage. But it's getting better almost daily! And some of the practices I've already found trough this site are very promising. Just accepting my sexuality, even those parts not necessarily seen as 'proper', has had enormous effect. Then I think it may be a little bit of linguistic fine-tuning for me. The Swedish word for love is narrower to some extent than love in English. So to some little part it's about me learning to use the correct word. :) But I will certainly not blame that. It's just a very small part of it, and a part other bilinguals may relate to.

2 - A year ago, I wouldn't have known. A few weeks ago, I would have been confuse. Now, I'm more sure, but still not done or finished or… what's the word. I can feel I'm more. Basically I have found wellsprings of more of me and I'm in the process of unpacking my feelings and insights, carefully and lovingly. I've started to realize that many of the things I did like about my self before, are very much more representative of me at depth than anything I hated. And infant, many of the things I hated were things I just couldn't accept because you 'aren't supposed to be/enjoy/like/want that'. Accepting my own complexity seems to lead to interesting places. And have hinted at what I can only describe as divinity at the fullness of things. I can sense spirit up ahead, but I'm not there yet. Does any of this make sense? I find my self struggling a little at the ineffability of it all!

3 - Thank you!

4 - Yes. And I've known that intellectually for years. But it's only been lately that I've basically matured enough to feel and understand it. I found my self telling my self I love me the other day, and almost cried in relief and gratitude. It was an intense experience, and I realised I've never actually meant it fully before in my life. I'm 36…!

Re: Free Video Course Worth $75 / Discussion

Tobias Vemmenby — Sat, 19 May 2018 08:01:43 -0000

I’m new to the whole area of Tantra and I am very curious. Partly for me as a single person struggling to meet a woman. I have already started to explore sacred sexuality more and more but am still not sure how best to go about it.

A question I do have is how you temper your deep desire for having sex at all (especially if time has been a major component), deep passion for whoever your with, and still be mindful about how to keep it sacred. I’m guessing not every sexual encounter need be sacred as such, but. I’m struggling for words. Do you have tips for how to mindfully appreciate the glass of water even if you haven’t drunk in days in the desert?

I also wanted to mention that I’ve had one encounter with true divine feminine. And uncovering that experience have have made me realize I want to experience and reciprocate that more.

Re: Free Sample Course From The University of Love & Sexuality / Discussion

Tobias Vemmenby — Sat, 19 May 2018 07:54:22 -0000

1. Love to me is that connection you sometimes feel with certain people, animals or nature. I think I can best describe it as wanting truly to just be there for the other. To care and help if needed, and let be free and wild if needed. Between lovers it may of course have that dimension too.

2. By actually applying love to myself. And it’s going better and better. I’ve loved through… stuff and survived. I’m on a journey of self discovery and awakening. Slowly I’m applying more and more, and recently I’ve genuinely started to like me. I think I may even have started to love me. It is intense and slightly scary. Who am I without selfcontempt? But on another, I almost want to cry the real ease is so wonderful. Even as I write this.

3. So far I’ve explored a few things and have settled on taking care of myself (permanent lifestyle changes and diet), a semi-regular diary, actively trying to listen more and be less cynical. Express what I want and listen to what I want. And meditation. Meditation has been such a savior. Still today, after years of meditating, I can come across large ‘pools’ of sadness and pain that well out during a session. I try to just let it flow, and usually I feel lighter afterwards.

4. I’ve had a problem accepting many things. My body. My history. My sexuality. My needs and wants. My situation. I’m doing better in all of them to varying degrees, and am so thankful I can sense it already doing so much good right to my very essence.

Re: Free University of Love & Sexuality Video Course (Worth $79) With Free Raw Attraction Magazines / Discussion

Tobias Vemmenby — Sat, 19 May 2018 05:13:09 -0000

This reminds me a lot of a phrase I think I’ve come across in a Stephen Covey book. “Seek first to understand, then to be understood.” Would you say that this is good way to think about what your saying too?

Re: Free University of Love & Sexuality Video Course (Worth $79) With Free Raw Attraction Magazines / Discussion

Tobias Vemmenby — Sat, 19 May 2018 05:09:53 -0000

I connect with this answer a lot. I often find my self being the listener to others, and it is so easy to fall in to the trap of this. I’ve become better at not giving advice unless called for, but this! I’ve never even thought about it this way around. I think I’ve always thought of it as a way of showing empathy, though. But after reading Bréné Brown and now this, vulnerable ‘being there’ seem to be a better path. I have a lot of stories, though I’ve shed several. But I’ll take this very much to heart. Thank You!

Re: Live Help Link | StackSkills

Tobias Vemmenby — Fri, 30 Sep 2016 16:59:34 -0000

Remove the %20 from the link inte the adress field after you've clicked the link. Press Enter, and it should work.

Re: Dating While Introverted: What You Need to Know

Tobias Vemmenby — Sun, 07 Aug 2016 17:43:53 -0000

BTW the relationship or what ever I should call it that was the best was with the extroverted mirror of my profile, INFP. I forget which one it is.

Re: Dating While Introverted: What You Need to Know

Tobias Vemmenby — Sun, 07 Aug 2016 17:42:17 -0000

The date is one thing, and yes, I've mostly had awful ones (though not just because of me!), but the other question is: how do you get the dates? I've used online profiles on various types of sites, from the serious to the not so serious. I've tried via social networks (including FourSquare of all places), the direct asking approach and more. I try to not sound needy, or winy or you know, like a creep; and yet I find it incredibly hard to find a woman who want's to go on a date at all.

Could it be my introversion tripping me up again? I've had people telling me, after months of knowing each other, that 'hey, I didn't know you were funny!' or 'you're a really interesting guy'. Sadly though, most of them have turned out to be in relationships, or turned out to be someone I wouldn't date for money (I've met one such person…).

Another tangent: has anyone else had the experience that the best relationship might be a mixed one? The few relationships I've had I've noticed that I feel the best when I get to be with a woman who is extroverted by aware of my needs to not be constantly on. If she's extroverted and unaware, she will drive me crazy. And if she is introverted, there is a strong tendency of us always spending our time at home and never doing anything really. So a mix where I help her relax and breath, and she helps me to get out and experience have been the best way so far. Does anyone else recognize this? I'm curious! :)

Re: The Faceplate for the Next Storage Pod – What Do You Think?

Tobias Vemmenby — Wed, 09 Sep 2015 12:26:48 -0000

The Squeeze looks best. The others fall in to standard tropes. Clouds, or jagged 'digital' logos. The Pop II could work, but I still think the Squeeze has the right level of elegance, style and recognition to work best.

Re: http://chipotle.tumblr.com/post/6729825042

Tobias Vemmenby — Mon, 20 Jun 2011 16:18:30 -0000

Thank you! I'm glad someone is finally pointing this out. As an adendum I'd also add the fact that Apple has so far refused Blu Ray DRM. Sure, iTunes sales, but outside the US the iTunes Store usually does not carry movies.

I'm fankly surprised that someone like Raymond swallows the Google guff about openess so readily. If anything Google have recent,y shown that they are very willing to control things if they deem that to their advantage. In the end, these are publicly held companies, they will not care if something is evil or not, as long as they can get away with it, keep sales and investors get their dues.

If you want open, build it your self. If it's controlled by a company, it will always be more or less closed. Just pick your flavor. Personally, I like the taste of my apple cider. :-)

Re: #Trust30 - Day 7 - Dare to be bold

Tobias Vemmenby — Sun, 12 Jun 2011 10:30:47 -0000

I should really say it was terrifying for me. I think it was the whole being married, gearing up for starting a family, many of the people I grew up with already have started families etc. I felt I was loosing something I was supposed to have by 30. But now I realize that, even though I still want kids and all that, I don't need them now. I should take the chance and have a little fun, do stuff for me (like writing, or traveling) without a care.

So yeah, I'm (and I can't tell you how surprised I am to hear ME say this) ok with turning 30. It will be nice. :) And I think it's great that you are hitting your stride! Have fun! (While life throws up? ;p)

Re: #Trust30 - Day 7 - Dare to be bold

Tobias Vemmenby — Sun, 12 Jun 2011 10:26:19 -0000

Thank you, and exactly! But, weird as it may be, I'm just starting to realize this.

Re: Skribenten försöker sig på en logga

Tobias Vemmenby — Mon, 23 May 2011 15:22:55 -0000

Haha, jo jag ser att det blev lite en vänsterhänt kommentar. Men det viktiga: den är snygg. Och flexibel. Du kan använda samma delar i olika konfiguarationer för flera syften. Färgerna funkar snyggt 2.0. Men jag vidhåller att den andas läger, i positiv bemärkelse. Tycker skribenten gjort bra ifrån sig!

Re: Skribenten försöker sig på en logga

Tobias Vemmenby — Mon, 23 May 2011 11:04:02 -0000

Jag tycker den blev ganska bra. Ser ut som en lägerlogga helt klart. Lägg till en liten fana någonstans, och kanske Camp i en plankfont, så har du en scoutlägerslogga! ;)

Re: http://tobiasvemmenby.tumblr.com/post/5157448357

Tobias Vemmenby — Tue, 03 May 2011 06:38:30 -0000

I think this quote from Merlin is very, very important to remember in all things. Change is hard, change takes time. In my case, I've spent the better part of two years locked inside myself. It's been hell! Then you slowly start to think about stuff, reflect, gestate. And somehow you start to find things to hang on to, battle to win. Sure, everything hasn't worked yet, but a lot of things have.

What I'm trying to say is that we all suck at something. I sucked at life. (I am, for the record, well aware that I suck at other things too, but let's leave that for now shall we?) Now, thank's in part to a fantastic new person who has come into my life, and all this extremely painful work I've done while inside myself for all that time, I've realized something. Life tastes good! Real good! And I want more! Much more!

Re: Something has happened!

Tobias Vemmenby — Tue, 03 May 2011 04:57:01 -0000

Yes! That is precisely how I feel. Granted, I know being scared won't be fun all the time, and I know that I have this comfort seeking side, but I need to experience. And I also feel like I no have some very good friends, including one or two real Bro's like you, who'll help! :-)

It is time to honor the call of the wild!

Re: Happy Imbolc

Tobias Vemmenby — Wed, 02 Feb 2011 06:20:41 -0000

Have a great Imbolc! And I hope my American friends find ways in spite of the snow.

Re: Episode 420 – Mysterious Universe

Tobias Vemmenby — Mon, 08 Nov 2010 06:34:05 -0000

Great episode! I love the show, but it was very nice getting some non-UFO stories in here. Keep up the great work!

Re: Neil Gaiman och Sverige

Tobias Vemmenby — Mon, 01 Nov 2010 13:31:00 -0000

Förhoppningsvis ska vi kunna köra en ny omgång med Bokbar nu i november. Håll koll på Facebook så återkommer vi!

Re: Neil Gaiman och Sverige

Tobias Vemmenby — Mon, 01 Nov 2010 13:31:00 -0000

Förhoppningsvis ska vi kunna köra en ny omgång med Bokbar nu i november. Håll koll på Facebook så återkommer vi!

Re: Därunder ett helvete – marknadsavdelningsmöte (cirkel 2)

Tobias Vemmenby — Thu, 28 Oct 2010 08:57:35 -0000

Haha, ska se vad som går att ordna. :)

Re: Därunder ett helvete – marknadsavdelningsmöte (cirkel 2)

Tobias Vemmenby — Thu, 28 Oct 2010 08:57:00 -0000

Haha, ska se vad som går att ordna. :)

Re: Därunder ett helvete – marknadsavdelningsmöte (cirkel 2)

Tobias Vemmenby — Thu, 28 Oct 2010 08:56:42 -0000

Mjo, möjligen. Men jag får personligen mer socialrealistiska vibbar av omslaget. Men kanske med ett annat typsnitt och lite lomograferat filter på bilden? Dock är jag medveten om att det kan ha att göra med att man inte är van att tänka i gothtermer på svenska alls.

Och där är jag tillbaka i vad vi har diskuterat innan. Är det svenska språket i sig kanske ett problem i vissa sorters marknadsföring? Har socialrealism och språkreformer så slagit klorna i det att det helt enkelt är svårt att använda utanför våra klassiska ramar. Eller handlar det mer om att vi har haft en så stark hegemoni av av vissa sorters litteratur att annan känns obekväm och konstig av det skälet?

Kultur vet vi spelar roll i marknadsföring, men kanske språket i sig självt också spelar roll? Förvisso kan man vara tråkig och säga att kultur och språk går hand i hand, men vi kan väl titta utanför den lådan lite… ;)